• Mental Quirks

    Do Not Rely on Someone Else for your Happiness!

    Do you think those words are harsh? I was in a discussion with a friend a while back who was quite adamant about this proposal and at the time I thought it seemed a very hard thing to achieve and a very abrupt thing to say. And then, after much thought, I came to the conclusion that in fact, the statement was correct; up to a point. I was reading a book a few weeks ago called ‘What would Freud do? How the greatest psychotherapists would solve your everyday problems’ by Sarah Tomley. I’m a bit wary of theories and suggestions by people that attempt to unravel the human mind.…

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    Self help when feeling lonely

    The ways I eased my loneliness As I mentioned at the outset of the Introduction to my blog, I recently went through a separation and divorce, which I will discuss in future posts, but this article is specifically centred on the different ways that someone can alleviate loneliness. My decisions regarding my personal life and past relationships were the best I ever made; unfortunately, it didn’t prepare me for the fact that being a mother alone with two children can be quite lonely at times. Days can seem to run into each other and before you even begin to notice, you realise you have gone quite a long time without…

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    My Menopausal Meltdown

    Meltdown: Free Dictionary Definition: A severe overheating of a nuclear reactor core, resulting in melting of the core and escape of radiation. A disastrous situation, failure or collapse. An emotional breakdown.   Menopause: Collins English Definition: The period of natural cessation of menstruation, usually occurring between the ages of 45 and 55. OK.  I’ll begin describing my menopausal meltdown, because that’s what it feels like. I’m looking at the definitions above as I’m writing this, and trying to decide which one best fits my circumstances at the moment. Without doubt, it definitely feels like I am constantly overheating in my core to a melting degree,  so that nearly every night…

  • Anxiety & Stress Parts 1 - 8,  Mental Quirks

    Anxiety & Counselling Part 1

    I attended my very first counselling session last night for the treatment and hopefully recovery of my anxiety and panic. It is based on a self referral made by myself though the NHS. I’ve waited to start for about 6 weeks, which I feel is a pretty long time, however the amount of people suffering with this, by the amount that attended, is highlighted with the length of time for the courses to begin. They are very popular and free, so I cannot complain. I am to attend the next 6 or 7 sessions, and I feel it would be a good idea to give an overview of what’s covered…

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    6 Ways to Control a Panic Attack

    I have been off the radar for a time and have not even written a post for the last 5 weeks, mainly because I’ve been quite poorly. My depression got real bad, with numerous panic attacks and anxiety. It’s been a pretty hellish time for me, and it hasn’t helped not having much work, therefore, I’ve been at home ruminating on worrying thoughts, which is incredibly unhealthy and non-productive. I’ve been given advice on upping my dose of medication, which has kind of worked, but I always feel that it’s like putting a plaster over a wound. It seals it for the time being but doesn’t quite get to the…

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    Panic Attacks and Relax

    Over Christmas I had two panic attacks; horrible ones. The first occurred in Cambridge out of the blue. I was in the hotel room in the morning, just about to go to breakfast and something in my mind triggered it. I sat on the edge of the bed, my head went dizzy and I sweated profusely. My friend was aware that I had this, gave me a towel to wipe off the perspiration, which was coming off me in torrents, and left me alone to calm down. My friend was still in the room but knew I needed space to be totally alone to try and focus on my anxiety…